Day 5 - Saturday Night reflection

Greetings everyone! Last night we heard from King Paradise aka DeShon McClain and he navigated us through his amazing speech Past, Present & Future. If you missed it, the link to view it is on yesterdays post. 

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Quite a few things stood out for me during our time with him including the importance of feeling seen, heard and understood. He reflected on a time when Preciss bought him flowers and how special it made him feel. 

There are things we do to make people we love feel special just like there are things we need to happen for us that make us feel special. As I reflected on that it occurred to me that there is so much love in the little things. 

Tonight during her tying ceremony our dear sister Sheila Spencer brought me a card today and it really hit me in the feels. It was loving, uplifting and in gratitude. Our exchange was beautiful as always and it really lifted my heart. On my way home I stopped an bought flowers for my love. It caught him off guard but his heart and his face smiled lol. 

Love is a domino effect. There are so many ways we pour into others and show up for people. Tonight I want you to reflect on what pouring into you looks like. Do you need to hear "Hey Beautiful", is it moral support you need, affection, tangible tokens of appreciation, etc? Really think about this one. Spend time on this. Write in the morning if you need to. I want you to get your love language right, for you. We evolve with life and perhaps your love needs have too. 

Here's a love language quiz. I took it and was surprised by the results! It was way accurate! I also noticed that my needs have changed in priority. https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/love-language

Take this quiz and journal this: "The Love I need" then begin to make a list but leave space to write 1. how you can fulfill this for yourself 2. how family/friends can fulfill this 3. how a partner can fulfill this 4. Professionally how can this be fulfilled (for example, words of affirmation is my top love language so I must operate in encouraging spaces).

"The world will love you in your strength, choose someone that will love you even in your weakness" -Nina Powell. To hold space for ourselves we must understand what loving us looks like prior to requiring it from someone else, partner, family, friends, work, groups etc. Choose you in your strengths and weaknesses first & you will align with likeminded healthy supportive experiences. I love y'all so much. If you're comfortable sharing, please post your results in the comments. I will post mine as well!

Peace and Love,

Nina 

 

1 comment

  • Here are my love language results:
    Words of affirmation 33%
    Physical Touch 30%
    Quality Time 20%
    Acts of Service 13%
    Receiving gifts 3%

    Im looking forward to hearing your results only if you’re comfortable sharing :)

    Nina

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